Meeting Emotional Needs

I don’t normally recommend too many other blogs but the one I’ve posted below I think is dead on for understanding the emotional needs of others and what may be driving their grumpy uncooperative difficult behaviors during the holidays. It speaks to understanding that bad behavior is usually about unmet emotional needs. If you can figure out what a person needs and give it to them right up front then that goes a long way toward heading their behaviors off at the pass.

I would also add that many people get anxious at the holidays because they FEAR that their emotional needs aren’t going to be met. Their FEAR drives them to say and do things that hurt others because they anticipate getting hurt themselves. They come with a chip on their shoulder, so to speak and are just waiting for someone to knock it off. That ensures that others don’t get close enough to disappoint them.

We call that “porcupine behavior.” Prickly and antagonistic.

A good way to offset that is to “disarm” them. Be so charming, nice, and loving they cannot believe what is happening.  Those old porcupine quills will fall right off!

Here’s the blog post:

http://personalityprinciples.blogspot.com/

In the next blog post I will talk about getting YOUR emotional needs met during the holidays!